What it Means to be a submissive

A submissive is always polite and respectful.   There is no excuse for been impolite or rude to others.

A submissive must always be in control of herself.   Only by having this self-control can she truly submit.
Drugs, even alcohol, are mind and body controlling agents affecting relationships and most importantly a scene, therefore effecting the self-control the submissive must have.

A submissive is always honest.
To lie is to show you can not be trusted and a Dominant must be able to trust you to respect you.   Not every Dominant is experienced and you can often help them to gain the experience in an enjoyable learning process.   Tell the Dominant up-front if you require a monogamous relationship.   Many Dominants enjoy polygamy and it is disrespectful to lead them to believe this is acceptable to you if it is not.

A submissive does not place blame for honest mistakes.
Everyone makes mistakes.   A responsible Dominant will admit when he makes a mistake and do what is necessary to correct it.   The submissive has an equal responsibility to honor these efforts and not place blame or ridicule the Dominant to others.

A submissive shows every Dominant respect until he has shown that he does not deserve it.
This does not mean calling every Dominant "Master".   Submissives should show Dominants the basic respect due any person holding a position of authority.   Any Dominant that requires you to call him "Master" when he is not your owner is out of line in his request. Politely tell him so.

A submissive discovers and is able to articulate the differences between her needs, desires and wants.
Dominants are not mind readers.   It is important to become self aware and able to clearly tell a Dominant what your feelings are.   The term usually used for this ability is "transparency".

It is the DUTY of a submissive to accept only those Dominants that match the submissive’s needs and desires.
A submissive that is not into whips should not belong to a Dominant that loves to whip submissives.

It is the DUTY of a submissive to communicate during a scene and tell the Dominant if something has gone wrong.

It is the DUTY of a submissive to communicate after a scene to let the Dominant know where her emotional state is during the normal "drop" that occurs as the body returns to normal after the surge of hormones and chemicals created by the scene.

It is the RESPONSIBILITY of a submissive to help other submissives to understand what abuse is.
To ensure this is to ensure that the submissive knows when to call it quits.

It is the RESPONSIBILITY of a submissive to help other submissives to know what their rights are.

It is the RESPONSIBILITY of a submissive to help other submissives gain information about the Lifestyle.
Showing the submissive how to get the information best does this.

For an owned submissive to play with another Dominant without her Dominant’s permission is dishonorable.

Interfering in the relationship of another Dominant and his submissive is dishonorable.

To chase after or scene with a Dominant who has a collared submissive is dishonorable.   The exception is when a Dominant is seeking another submissive and is in a consensual polyamorous relationship with his first submissive.

No submissive can be expected to live up to the above 100% of the time, but the harder a submissive tries, the more respect others will have for her.



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